Many Great Neck residents stepped into that time and place Friday night, when they watched an almost two-hour documentary of the Friedmans' shattered lives, told through interviews with law enforcement officials, attorneys, neighbors, relatives and others. "She threw a punch at my head.". 3142(e), had used a number of aliases, had lived from hotel to hotel, had shown skill in avoiding surveillance, and had hidden assets. The almost surreal family scenes, further disturbing revelations by Arnold about his previous pedophilia and the underlying premise that both Friedmans were unfairly convicted have galvanized audiences, said Jarecki, who has attended several public screenings around the country. What they didn't know was that he and his son were sexually abusing pre-teen boys. In that recording, the detectives made the mother leave the room while they told the boy that Arnold Friedman had confessed that "he sodomized a lot of children," and that two other boys "both say that they saw [you] engaged in it." But wait. If these things surface 20 years later, they won't be recognizable," he said. One in four girls and one in six boys will be sexually abused before their eighteenthbirthday; fewer than one in ten will tell. All rights reserved. Have you seen Andrew Jarecki's award-winning film? In an interview, one victim said he was afraid the pictures and tapes could ruin lives, but took solace in the hope that the pornography will not surface for years. He said he just wanted to return to his first love of filmmaking after making millions of dollars as a businessman. The plot gets even murkier after it is made clear that parents used questionable methods like hypnosis to bring out a confession from their child. Panaro also asked the judge to grant youthful offender status to Friedman, which would seal the record of his conviction. He had received the "Loving Children" photo set from Produit Outaouais. * * *. They said Onorato badgered them during Dec. 16 and Dec. 20 meetings in his Mineola office when he advised them to accept a deal for 6-to-18 years. Police are searching for pornographic photos and videotapes that could be key evidence in their continuing investigation of a Great Neck child sex-abuse case. While researching his birthday-entertainer film, Jarecki kept running across people who referred him to David Friedman, who was considered the most successful clown of them all. "If this film does win an Oscar," they wrote, "it will be won at the expense of silencing the plaintive voices of abused children once again, just as our own voices were silenced 16 years ago by the threats and intimidation of our tormentors, Arnold and Jesse Friedman.". Police officers canceled vacations and switched to night shifts. The Horror Movie - Questions for Jesse Friedman, Revisiting the Friedmans Lays Doubts to Rest. If what he says is true, it definitely complicates his appeal. Ross Goldstein, who was indicted on 118 counts of various sexual abuses, cooperated with authorities and implicated Jesse Friedman before a grand jury. A.G., according to Gary, said that as far as he knew Mr. Friedman never did anything. Friedman said nothing when offered a chance to speak. How is all this sudden attention sitting with you? In the movie, Panaro denies making any such suggestion. For about a dozen people who came to court to see Jesse Friedman imprisoned for sexually abusing their sons, the sentencing yesterday was at best a bittersweet end to a sordid affair. What can I tell you? Lurid accounts surfaced of games of "leap frog" in the nude and "find the M&M's," which involved children using their mouths to find candy hidden inside other children's underwear. Arnold's father hustled a living buying and selling auto parts. "As we went back the second time, we began to hear statements such as, `You know, sometimes Jesse had his friends there,' " said Det. Friedman's attorney, Earl Nemser of Manhattan, said yesterday witnesses interviewed in the film indicated that "coercion and suggestive tactics," such as hypnotism, were used to question the alleged abuse victims. ", In "The Thin Blue Line," he says, "you never see my investigation. And these efforts have paid unexpected dividends, leading investigators to two dozen alleged child molesters. Arnold Friedman died in state prison of an apparent suicide in 1995, after serving about 8 years of a 10- to 30-year sentence. 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(2) In 1986, Arnold Friedman mail-ordered "Boy Love," a magazine featuring graphic pictures of men having sex with children, which led to a sting operation. (Disclosure: Harvey Silverglate has acted as co-counsel for Gerald Amirault, and both authors are working for the vindication and release of Bernard Baran. [This homespun theory is disproven by numerous scientific studies. He said he believed at the time there was no way he could win the case. Though the film explores (but does not resolve) the issue of whether Jesse himself was molested by Arnold, the youngest son maintains an essentially positive memory of his father. After uncovering such a tangled and sorrowful real-life chronicle, what does Mr. Jarecki envision as his next project? While film critics say Jarecki artistically captures a clearly dysfunctional family facing a maelstrom of horrendous accusations, child abuse experts and the judge in the case say he has not captured the truth. For some parents and children, the ordeal was exacerbated by accidental meetings with Mrs. Friedman and Jesse, who was free on bail for a long time after his indictment. Law-enforcement agents believe that about 95 percent of the child porn in this country has been imported from abroad. "I would walk in and he'd be doing something technical. ", The Motion Picture academy sets few rules in its documentary category. "At that point I went nuts," the woman said, remembering the fury she felt at Arnold Friedman. Around that time he approached longtime friend Smerling about his idea for a documentary about children's birthday clowns. I don't think anybody thought very specifically about exactly what had mutated in the cell to make it bad. No jury ever sat in judgment over Jesse. The case is now in the hands of Judge Richard Lapera. People need to know thatthey are not alone and where to turn for help.". Jesse said his parents fought a great deal. Friedman documentary - Minimalist approach. No one ever dropped out of [Arnold Friedman's computer] classes despite claiming to be sodomized after sessions. ", Jarecki said he's "very supportive" of Friedman's quest for a new trial. We did not exaggerate. "And when I started to tell them things, I was telling myself it was not true. He was 18 years old when he was arrested. Finally, when his son told him what had happened, he came to understand his son's anger. The alleged abuse was reckless, occurring in front of groups of children. "I thought it would be fun to follow one of these people into their lives," he recalled recently. Jarecki and Hankin create a lucid context for the family meltdown: the home-recorded scenes spell out the dynamics of a domestic disaster with stronger-than-fiction veracity. Speaking to him the day after the documentary of his alleged crimes and subsequent imprisonment lost its bid for the Best Documentary Oscar, Jesse came off as everything you'd least expect. Not included in the film, however, was the rest of the interview with Squeglia, in which Squeglia says that he had to hold four or five interrogation sessions before the children relented and became "a whole new ball of wax. "They really started to badger me," said Maltin. Hitler was speaking every day. "In the subculture of adolescent boys, the greatest taboo is being homosexual," said FBI special agent Kenneth Lanning, a veteran of more than 1,000 such cases. He pleaded guilty to that charge Feb. 8 and was sentenced by U.S. District Court Judge Mark A. Costantino. "'In my family, everything got washed under the rug. When the authorities tell his landlords and building boards that he's a Level Three, they can throw him out. The joint letter of the two young men to the Academy Awards panel said, in part, "We did not lie. Then the clown film changed into something completely different. There are several people who go by the name of Arnold Friedman. (Ross Goldstein, a teenage friend whose story is not explored in the film but who also was charged in the case, made a plea agreement to cooperate with the Nassau district attorney's office and spent only six months in jail. One adult sexual aid was found in the home, and not near the computer class.]. No mention is made in the film of the pre-sentencing psychiatric report in which Jesse told a psychiatrist that he was relieved when his father began molesting the children in his computer classes because it finally deflected his father's sexual attentions from him. The judge could deny it outright [or] grant it. The smile gleaming on his tired face is captured on video by his eldest son David, who keeps fidgeting with the zoom dial. Mr. Jarecki, the director, "ignored and hid evidence that Jesse was guilty and didn't reach out to actual victims, because I never heard from him," said the mother of one of 13 victims. They just don't know how to show their love.". Now they worry that videotapes will come back to haunt them. The movie also contains astoundingly personal footage shot by the Friedmans themselves. That's not the kind of evidence that's admissible in a court of law. Federal law bars the importing of child porn, and nearly all states forbid its production or distribution. Accordingly, we hold that the district court's finding with regard to Friedman's risk of flight was clearly erroneous. The circuit court ruling, the Conviction Integrity Review, and Capturing the Friedmans all agree on that point. 1. "It is a sensitive time for the case because it is pending in front of the court, so I'm not sure if it's smart for me to be commenting," Jarecki wrote in an e-mail response to questions Newsday posed earlier this month. - A number of computer students admit to having provided false testimony in order to end the questioning and that they actually did not experience the abuse to which they had testified to. Filmmakers and artists put things in and leave things out all the time. father for looking at pictures of anal sex between children. Elaine Friedman, 71, Dies In Boca Car Crash, Police Shoot Suspect In Boynton Beach Monday Morning, TRAFFIC ALERT: Overturned Vehicle Near Morikami Park In Delray Beach, Glades Road Closures Set For This Week, Boca Raton Drivers Plan Now, Time To Call Law Enforcement? But the defendant maintained he knew nothing about the pornography. They don't say it was all your fault. He's filed a motion to overturn his 1988 conviction on charges that he and his father sexually abused children. But his emotional problems continued. She has been charged with child endangering. The lawyer added that Friedman is the beneficiary of "an enormous windfall" of evidence because of the research done by director Andrew Jarecki. daisy chain got penetrated by the teacher. ", Arnold's guilt is less ambiguous. Or that Ross Goldstein, who wasn't in the film, would plead guilty to sodomy and implicate his friend Jesse if nothing happened? younger brother (now in his 60s), who simply can't believe Arnold did Although Friedman insisted he was guilty only of collecting pornography, she said, he began to talk about suicide. He said that he never heard any rumors about Mr. Friedman until this whole thing broke loose and it was in the newspaper. The latest sign of our collective denial is the nomination of a seriously flawed film for an Oscar. There was a troubling frenzy at the time around accusations of mass child molestation. To me the most interesting thing is when they stop looking at me and start looking at each other and talking directly to each other.". [No child's testimony in the case ever stated that they participated in sexual games. Elaine, in a 1989 article, said that her normally emotionless husband was almost in tears when police took his child porn photos. He filed a second motion last month in state appellate court in Brooklyn asking for a change of venue because Friedman and his legal team don't think he can get a fair hearing in Nassau County. And then, just when you think a story like this can't have a surprise Friedman has asked a court to review evidence in his case, one of the most notorious in the history of New York's Long Island, contending that prosecutors coached and intimidated child witnesses. "Don't forget -- there never was a trial. Almost every night, Arnold and Howard (Arnolds younger brother) saw their mother bring back a date whom she made love to in that one single bedroom of their apartment. - One detective admits to visiting a student 15 separate times in order to finally procure incriminating testimony despite the childs consistent statement that he had not been abused. "They are very loving people. Clearly, Arnold was a damaged cell, and he got together with (his wife) Elaine, and she was in some way a damaged cell. The nosebleeds predated his enrollment in computer classes. But the scene, she says, is left out of the movie. Some of that is captured in the two hours of extras that accompany the just-released DVD version of the film. Do it. Some of you may be successfully launched in the world. Fox) daughter as the main character. ". Arnold Friedman, who pleaded guilty March 25 to 42 sex-related charges involving the 13 boys, stood meekly with his hands cuffed behind his back as Nassau County Judge Abbey Boklan sentenced him to the 10to 30-year jail term to which Friedman had agreed when he entered his plea. He has hosted panel discussions all over the country. Grandmother of Sam and David. Meanwhile, Arnold, Jesse, and Ross Goldstein, 18, a friend of Jesse's, would be indicted in Nassau County on a total of 464 counts of sodomy, sexual abuse, using a child in a sexual performance and endangering the welfare of a child. "There's no way to know at this point what that will mean," he explains to Jewsweek. "Some people leave and say, 'Elaine Friedman is some kind of demonic, evil creature and no wonder her family is so screwed up.' She asked Joyce Brabner, the real-life inspiration for her role, to go away. these horrible things, reveals something so small, so indisputable and so The recently released DVD includes that much more information. The oldest films, taken by Arnold's father, show little Arnold, his brother and a sister who died in childhood. Mrs. Friedman was out shopping for Thanksgiving dinner. At the same time, Jesse Friedman rejected a deal that would have brought him about 5 to 15 years in prison, Onorato said. The police had notes of these interviews, and never provided them to the Friedmans as required under Brady v. Maryland. It featured low-budget color photos of nude boys and graphic pictures of men having sex with children. Jesse was sentenced to six to 18 years in prison and is now on parole after serving 13. Thirty minutes after police arrived, she got home to find neighbors, reporters and camera crews gathered out front and her husband inside in handcuffs. Eventually, about 14 families banded together and, over countless hours, helped police and prosecutors build cases against the men charged with abusing their kids. _________________________________________________________________________________. The New York Times has agreed to protect her identity and her son's. He never saw Mr. Friedman take any kids out of the room or go upstairs. The Friedmans are Arnold, an erstwhile pianist and orchestra leader, and retired award-winning public-school teacher; his sons, David, Seth, and Jesse, who share his sense of fun; and his wife, Elaine, who, emotionally cut off from her roistering male crew, is content to feel that she raised a normal family. "Mr. Friedman pulled my pants half-way down and he made me hold onto one of the computer table chairs . "Jesse is the bogeyman in the covers, the bogeyman under the bed. When Arnold was about 5 years old, his father left the family, plunging them into even more desperate financial straits. Online must link to BocaNewsNow.com. I never doubted me. He is scheduled to return to court Monday. The anti-Friedman constituency cites his plea as conclusive evidence that the crimes occurred. There is an option available on the DVD whereby you can hear Jarecki explain how he made his editing decisions as you watch the documentary. Or can we believe Elaine, Arnold's wife, whose children vilify her in He has entered and won film competitions by the dozen. We're not the Osbournes. If anything, Goldstein's arrest bolsters the case for Jesse Friedman's innocence. Their parents would get uptight about things like that, he said, but they could talk to him about anything. Based on [Ross'] testimony, police said, two suspects were brought in for lineups. [The film did not fail to mention these games, and in fact shows the games onscreen. PRINT MUST REFERENCE BOCANEWSNOW.COM. Andrew Jarecki, whose film about the pair has been mentioned as a possible Oscar nominee, said he supported Mr Friedman in his efforts to prove his innocence. He said Jesse was, as far as he could tell, the only real victim in this whole, sorry story. A detective is shown saying he approached children by telling them he knew the abuse had taken place and asking leading questions. At times people laughed, grunted, gasped and fell silent as the breaking apart of a family unfolded. The family's audiovisual documents imbue the movie with piercing intimacy. Child sexual abuse is a national public health crisis. What else do we know about Arnold? At the time, he felt he had simply "run out of options", and a guilty plea under the US plea-bargaining system seemed his only chance of ever being released. Through him, he learned the Friedmans' dark secret. She let this guy run her life," said attorney Frederick Pfouts. They were students at a computer school run out of the home of Friedman and his father, Arnold, who was also convicted on the charges. Whether the case against Arnold Friedman - award-winning school teacher, computer instructor, admitted pedophile - fits in that latter category is the question posed by "Capturing the Friedmans," Andrew Jarecki's scathing exploration of the Great Neck child sex-abuse case and a movie that is in turn surgical laser and blunt instrument. http://www.newsday.com/news/printedition/ny-livit273389114jul27,0,4000086.column?coll=ny-news-print, http://entertainment.msn.com/news/article.aspx?news=145568, distribution and manufacturing of child pornography, Anti-Semitism, Sexual Abuse, and The Jewish Community, Common Clinical Diagnoses Given to Survivors of Child Abuse and Sexual Assault, Common Issues of Survivors of Child Abuse and Incest, Dating, Shadchan, Dating Service: Preventing Date and Marital Rape, History and Background of Rabbinical Ordinations, History of Child Abuse, Neglect and Sexual Abuse/Assault Laws and Cases in Jewish Communities, Mandated Reporting and Halacha (Jewish Law), Marrying a Kohain: Female Survivors of Sex Crimes, Political Issues and Resources Relating to Childhood Sexual Abuse, Prostitution and Human Trafficking within Jewish Communities, Sex Offenders: Problems Our Parents Wouldn't Speak Of, Women's Issues: Jewish Survivors of Sex Crimes. I began without the slightest inkling that this dreadful family calamity would be lurking in the background of my birthday clown project.". In a letter to Newsday, in which he refused requests for interviews, he referred to his case as "the Great Neck Horror" and said it was the story of a town that "conducted a modern-day witch hunt. Arnold's brother and David hit their heads, saying maybe someday they'll remember something, but they don't, now. They named "The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King" as the best film of 2003. Last week, in response to the nomination of "Capturing the Friedmans" for best documentary, two of Jesse Friedman's victims issued an open letter to the Academy, which stated, in part "If this film does win an Oscar, it will be won at the expense of silencing the plaintive voices of abused children once again, just as our own voices were silenced 16 years ago by the threats and intimidation of our tormentors, Arnold and Jesse Friedman.". positive about himself that it allows you new insight into what Arnold may Fifteen minutes later, government officials and Nassau police, armed with a warrant, raided the home. Their quiet suburban neighborhood was "this organism," Jarecki said, " . We were never hypnotized to tell our stories." "This was like a prolonged torture they subjected the kids to." Because Judge Costantino's implied finding that Friedman posed a risk of flight was clearly erroneous, we reverse and remand. The Friedmans had no prior relationship with the filmmakers and were not permitted to see the film until it was complete.]. The conviction overturned, vacated and the charges dismissed would be very nice. "To make that date I would have had to come back from promoting ['Vol. The following is a partial summary of facts that came to light during the making of the film: The vast majority of the computer students interviewed by the police had no recollection of any abuse despite being visited by the police many times. "To call Jarecki's work an investigation is ridiculous because he didn't speak to most victims. "How shameful that they are unwilling to donate thirty seconds of their time to acknowledge that child sexual abuse is not entertainment, but rather a frightening and devastating reality for millions of our nation's children.". In the end, after the interview with Jesse, the questions still lingered. Comments have to be in English, and in full sentences. One detective admits to visiting a student 15 separate times in order to finally procure incriminating testimony despite the child's consistent statement that he had not been abused. "Arnold had 100 percent control over pictures." I asked Gary if he noticed anything funny going on in the class and he said no. Arnold had an established history as a child molester: The film acknowledges that Arnold was an admitted pedophile. I guess you could be a nice, sweet kid and be a child abuser, but it really made no sense. He is forced to wear an electronic tracking device around his ankle and has a curfew. "It was brainwashing," the mother of one victim said. The film states that he had sexual relations with his brother when he was a child. The mother was devastated by this sudden death," Mrs. Friedman said. (1) Although Jarecki shows the house looking porn free and a voice-over says porn was only found in the office, the prosecutor says in the movie that child pornography was found all over the house. I asked him if there was any reason for not continuing after 6th Grade and he said no, he did not think there were any classes after he left the 6th Grade. Friedman pleaded last month to the federal charge of distributing child pornography through the mail. They needed to feel like they could talk about it. Jesse Friedman did not take part in the plea bargaining. What Jarecki discovered during the interview process was that David had a very interesting family. One of the highlights of last night's New York Film Critics Circle dinner was the appearance of director Quentin Tarantino. Textbook: No. At the time it was the longest, costliest criminal proceeding in U.S. history, eating up seven years of court time. And a That cell has to go away. Many children also were questioned by parents, therapists and prosecutors, she said, who were told the same versions of events. These revelations are profoundly self-incriminating, even through Arnold may have gone to prison on wrongful charges. Oscar-nominated documentaries usually don't grab much attention amid all the megastar, big-budget films up for awards. His mother, Elaine Friedman, sat with her eyes closed or her gaze averted during most of the proceeding. "The family was smart, the police were smart, the judge was smart. She said that the strip poker disk is sold over the counter in many stores. They wanted it told in a fulsome way. Cragg attended the University of Southern California while Fernandez attended Florida State University. The court papers laid out some of the interviewing methods that Jesse Friedman's attorney, Earl H. Nemser of Manhattan, claims were coercive. Friedman is 33 years old; he studies economics and politics at a local college, and he has been dating the same person steadily for more than a year. Jesse Friedman pleaded guilty Dec. 20 to 17 counts of first-degree sodomy; four counts of first-degree sexual abuse; one count of first-degree attempted sexual abuse; one count of using a child in a sexual performance and two counts of endangering the welfare of a child. Arnold displayed what Mark Yohalem, former head of the Bayside High School science department, described as "a relaxed authoritativeness.". "Clear evidence is omitted, facts distorted, and uncertainty is created about the guilt of these two confessed pedophiles," the letter said. "[The victims] were children at the time, they are young adults now and I can't bear to see them victimized once again." "It's the scarlet letter of the '80s," says O'Malley. In 1989 some wet their beds, took baseball bats to bed, could not sleep. Jarecki fails to mention that the Friedmans pled guilty so none was sought. The Friedmans have denied the charges. "The actual facts are far more complicated than what Jarecki explains in the film. They are now 24 and 27. "But if he had been less prideful about his reputation, his standing in the community, he might have said, 'Look, I didn't do these terrible things, but there are things in my past I'm ashamed of. All these years later, she still has vivid images of Friedman. As a child, Arnold witnessed his mother having sex with various men. Frustrated because no arrests had been made, a group of parents decided to confront the teacher at his home. He was 5 feet, 6 inches tall and he ballooned to 175 pounds. Without this information, in an atmosphere of hysteria associated with the now-debunked "sex-ring" cases of the late 80's, and with Judge Boklan's decision to allow cameras in the courtroom for the first time in Nassau County history, the Friedmans had little chance of succeeding at trial. This witnessthe source of 35 sodomy counts brought against the Friedmans"remembered" this abuse after undergoing hypnotic memory recovery. That's only occasionally a problem - for example, Now, he's free and hoping to clear his name. Mr. Jarecki's first feature a remarkable documentary chronicle of family scandal, estrangement and solidarity titled "Capturing the Friedmans" has opened to an admiring press in several cities, duplicating its reception at the Sundance Film Festival in January. "Why should members of the public, their colleagues, family members, friends, hear about this now?" Everything else is a bonus.". "My client is distraught and he's asserting his innocence completely. One Thanksgiving eve, David returned from college to discover that domestic security had collapsed: The police were ransacking the place and preparing to arrest Arnold and Jesse. Not the whole truth about Arnold Friedman, certainly. But he She was a kind, funny . Friedman also admitted ramming one young boy's head into a wall while other students watched. "What fascinated me," Jarecki said, when conducting interviews with victims, investigators and prosecutors involved in the case - all of them "highly articulate" and "very smart" - was that "nobody could agree on anything.". They said the children claim to have been extensively photographed. Irene Weiser, founder of New York City-based StopFamilyViolence.org, came across an Associated Press story late last week that raised questions about the movie's portrayal of the case. In the court papers filed last week, there are citations about studies into the unreliability of "recovered memory" and other allegedly coerced testimony. COPYRIGHT 2023 METRO DESK MEDIA, LLC. ", For Hankin, the film is a Rorschach test. Content copyright 2023 Metro Desk Media, LLC. Based on the quality of the police work, I think the case should have been thrown out.". 646.437.4202. You are all in your 20s. As the abuse escalated so did the threats. Later, as an undergraduate at Princeton, he channeled his performing urge into directing theater.